Girl on Girl - Why Lesbians Are
Coming Out Of The Closet! by Sarah
Harris
Lesbian love is nothing new; Sappho was an Ancient Greek
poetess who was born on the island of Lesbos. Many of her love
poems were addressed to other women and the female narrators in
many of her works speak of infatuations and love for various
women. The word "lesbian" derives from the island on which she
lived and her name is the origin of the word "sapphic".
However, until recently, the idea of one woman loving another,
let alone sleeping with another female has been perceived as
something either very unusual and rare, or just downright
strange. Over the last few years, there's been a gradual
sea-change in regard to the general perception of what being
'lesbian' really means. The traditional image of the cropped
haired, rather aggressive looking, butch dyke might still apply
to some gay women, but now we're coming out of the closet in
our millions and the world can see that actually, in most
cases, we look just like the girl next door.
This mass 'coming out' is partly due to the proliferation of
lesbian-centric resources on the internet; type in the word
'lesbian' into any of the search engines and you'll see a
plethora of heavily populated chat rooms, directories, forums
and dating sites like PlanetSappho.com which are
the exclusive territory of sapphic women. It is this
availability of male-free communities that has coaxed so many
gay, bisexual and even bi-curious ladies out of their closets
and into the open. Also, we now see major cultural icons like
Madonna kissing Britney Spears kissing each other full on the
lips in front of a television audience of millions which is
exactly the right heterosexual seal of 'cool' that we lesbians
have waited such a long time to see. Over the years, there have
been a great many famous lesbians in both film and music but,
unfortunately, they were just too frightened to come out and
publicly admit it. Now we have Ellen DeGeneres and KD Lang -
both of whom have an army of straight, non-judgmental fans.
The outcome of all this is that there is no longer a social
stigma attached to the concept of women dating women or
straight women experimenting with their sexuality by taking a
same sex partner. Gay guys have been doing it for years but now
there's no reason for any woman to feel repressed or uncertain
about dating or sleeping with someone of their own sex. Being
who we are or want to be is no longer just a possibility, it's
a right and it's also something that's now accepted by our
straight counterparts.
Whilst the word 'lesbian' is an all encompassing description
for a gay woman, it doesn't do justice to the many different
types of female who embrace the lifestyle. There are the
traditional dykes as well as femmes/lipstsick lesbians whose
ultra-feminine appearance would give no clue as to their sexual
inclinations and bi-sexual and bi-curious women who
occasionally indulge the lesbian side of their sexual and
emotional psyches. Just because you don't have the shaved head
and the tattoos doesn't mean you can't enjoy yourself sexually
with another woman if that's what you want to do. So
sisters...there's never been a better time to be a lesbian and
now is the time to come out of the closet and be loud and proud
about joys of lesbian loving!
Sarah Harris is the founder of http://www.PlanetSappho.com
- a popular lesbian
dating site.
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