First Time Sex With Another Lesbian Or Bisexual Woman
By Cherie Branson

It may seem like an awkward question but most of us are a little nervous when we have our first lesbian experiences. I recommend that you take a little time and just take it nice and easy. Here are some tips to help make your first lesbian experience successful and mutually rewarding.

First Time Sex with Another Woman

Learn about women. Yes, even though you're a woman you should take time to learn about other types of women. How do they think? What are their fantasies? What turns them on? Learn what you can by participating in online chats and forums. Go to Google or your favorite search engine and do some searches about how to make love to a lesbian woman. You'll be amazed at some of the online resources and how much you can learn by browsing them.

Learn about yourself. Yes, take some time to get to know yourself. What turns you on? What are your fantasies? What gets you off? Go ahead... it's ok to play with yourself! As you touch yourself make note of what turns you on. It's likely that your partner will like the same. Make sure you tell your partner what you like as well so she'll know how to please you.

Learn about the lesbian dynamic. Woman on woman sexual experiences tend to be a little different - ok, a lot different from those with men. Women tend to make deeper emotional connections with their partner. There tends to be more kissing and cuddling. The sex is intense and passionate but also very loving and close. Sex between women may take many forms. For example some women prefer clitoral stimulation while others prefer being penetrated. Some prefer genital massage while others prefer oral. Others like to bring out the sex toys and go at it with strap-ons or vibrators. Some are kinky or like role playing games. There are as many ways to make love to a lesbian as there are lesbians. Take the time to get to know what drives her crazy. The possibilities should be fun to explore - not intimidating.

There's no right or wrong way. Lesbians and bisexuals can have sex in any way they want for mutual pleasure, just based on what they want and what feels good. Many lesbians have a satisfying and varied sex life due to the level of intimacy attainable by two women and the fact that they tend to know what pleases another woman. Get creative and explore your partner.

Be safe. Leave alcohol and drugs out of your new sexual experience. If you must have a drink or two to loosen up then that may be ok but be very careful. If you overindulge you might find yourself doing something embarrassing to ruin the moment or even the possibility of a relationship if that's your aim. Getting to know your partner is also a big concern. Women are also capable of violence (though not nearly as often as men) and they can give you a sexually transmitted disease (STD). Safe sex should be discussed. Does she have herpes, HIV or some other disease that you should know about.

Relax and just take it easy. Take the time to get to know your partner before you hop in the sack for mad passionate sex, especially if it's your "first time out." It's probably best to leave your sex toys and kinky stuff out for the first few times. Sure you can talk about it, but keep it simple at first. Explore each other slowly, kiss, nibble and work your way slowly undressing her and showing your appreciation. Press your body against hers. Everybody has different erogenous zones so take it slow and explore with your fingers, mouth and body. Make a mental note each time she reacts in a positive way. You may want to get back to that later. All the things you learn during this foreplay stage will get both of you primed and ready for the sex part.

Ask her questions and talk. It's ok to talk to her while you're exploring her body with your mouth and fingers. If you have any doubt, just ask if she likes it. She'll let you know and will probably be glad you asked. Tell her where you like to be touched and what turns you on. Be sure to reward her with moans or words of approval when she does something you like. She's exploring you at the same time you're exploring her and she's trying to learn what gets your motor purring. The communication has to work both ways. Also, if anything is off limits sexually, it's probably best just to be right up front with it.

Be realistic about the first time. Most likely you'll do ok after your first lesbian experience. You'll be both relieved and probably ready to do it again! You and your partner may or may not have orgasm the first time, but what's important is that you get intimate, touch skin and give way to your sexual desires. Just remember that sex between two people is something that should get better with time and experience. Talk about it, think about it and practice makes perfect!

Have fun with your first woman on woman sexual experience!

Cherie Branson is the webmaster of Lesbian Flirts Social Networking Site, a free online community where women form new friendships and participate in groups, forums and chat about the lesbian and bisexual lifestyle. You're welcome to come join us and create your online profile.

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